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The Best Mentor and Mentee Relationship
Who is a Mentor?
A mentor is not just an advisor, but more than that:
A mentor is a person who has professional and life experience and who voluntarily agrees to help a mentee develop skills, competencies, or goals.
Unlike counselling or advising, Mentoring involves both a personal and professional relationship. A mentoring relationship develops over an extended period, during which a student’s needs and the nature of the relationship tend to evolve from one stage to the next.
The ultimate role of a mentor is not to walk the path for you, but to guide you to walk the path successfully.
23 Qualities of The Best Mentor
- A Mentor must have Extensive Knowledge in a field you are interested in.
- It is important to have a mentor who has not had it all rosy, but has been able to overcome real challenges
- A Mentor must have a Friendly Personality, must be Genuine and Credible and Trustworthy.
- Must be Passionate and show Enthusiasm about empowering others and not threatened by their success.
- Must be Flexible enough to embrace flexible mentoring styles
- Must be open to learning from the mentee
- Available and Approachable
- Must be a Good Listener and not in haste to judge or be prejudiced
- Must not be too Possessive but allow the mentee to learn from others too
- Must be Fair and not partial in any way whether based on sex, colour, background etc.
- Must be Professional
- Must Value Life-long Learning; not all-knowing
- Encourages you to step out of your comfort zone
- Must Provide Feedback at every step
- Treats mentees Respectfully
- Has good Questioning and Communication skills
- Has good Common Sense
- Has good People Management and Leadership skills
- Has some much Knowledge of the industry, organization, or field in which the mentee works or aspires to work in.
- Possesses Self-confidence and self-awareness
- Openness, Honesty and Trustworthiness
- Must be willing to exercise Patience and show Empathy
- Pray for Mentee
11 Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
15 Qualities of The Best Mentee
- Teachable and able to provide effective feedback
- Must be committed to personal, spiritual and professional growth
- Must be Open minded and willing to try new methods
- Must have respect for the mentor’s time and effort
- Must be willing to take responsibility for their career
- Must have a specific objective
- Must have strong work ethics and initiatives
- Must have a clear and measurable objective.
- Must be willing and eager to learn.
- Must be honest, open and transparent
- Must be committed and hardworking by doing what is required
- Must be time conscious in the delivery of assignments and meetings
- Must show commitment to what the mentor is committed to
- Must always keep in touch
- Pray for your Mentor
In some occasions, it is more effective for a mentor to develop mentoring teams where mentees can learn and benefit from each other’s strengths. Mentees must not feel intimidated by others but rather trust the mentor to ensure that they identify some key strengths they can learn.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
Mentoring teams can also have other mentors as part in the same team, where there is the main mentor, and there are also other mentors who may also be mentees of the main mentor. A mentor may also invite an external mentor to come and facilitate short sessions. Mentees should be learn to handle such opportunities and well to preserve their loyalty and gratitude.
A good mentor, through mentoring teams, helps to build a good network of both mentors and mentees, and in effect create a priceless learning environment.
Both mentor and mentee can suffer challenging moments within which it is important to preserve professional ethics.
Mentoring The Opposite Sex
This is a sensitive area which requires much attention to avoid the appearance of sexual harassment.
Inappropriate closeness between a mentor and a student can and will produce personal, ethical, and legal consequences not only for the persons involved but the whole institute. Mentoring is not an opportunity to gratify intimate emotional satisfaction.
Be guided by common sense and a knowledge of your own circumstances.
- Is it appropriate to invite the mentee to discussions at your home or single room?
- During in-person meetings, should you keep the office door closed (for privacy) or open?
- Should you call a mentee or mentor late in the night?
Mentoring is not supposed to be boring and all tensed up. Let this journey be fun be adapting at each level and remaining open-minded to learn and learn and learn on either side, whether mentor or mentee.
Remember this scripture:
For with God nothing shall be impossible.